This is the 21st century,gone are the days when men are
attracted by just looks,listed below are some of the qualities most single Nigerian men look for in womenn before they say ‘I Do’.
Top 50 Marriage Qualities Nigerian Men Look For In Women
1.GET A JOB
This is generally a turn on for most men, men
like it when their girlfriends also assist in bringing home the bacon, it also
makes him have respect for you, so go get a job or find something to do that will
generate cash.
2.LOOK GOOD
You wouldn’t
wanna give the impression of being a plain Jane or a certified fashion victim, men
love it when their women have a good classy fashion sense, they would be eager
to show you off to their friends or take you to an event.
But when the reverse
is the case,then you need to step up your fashion game, you gotta be on fleek.
wanna give the impression of being a plain Jane or a certified fashion victim, men
love it when their women have a good classy fashion sense, they would be eager
to show you off to their friends or take you to an event.
But when the reverse
is the case,then you need to step up your fashion game, you gotta be on fleek.
3.SCHEDULE
Being well organized is key,show him that you are very organized and keep to your time and schedule,men dig that.You wouldn’t want to keep him waiting for hours just because you want to wear make-up.
4. FAVOR
When your man asks you for a favor, and you question
him and ask why? …he will sense that you simply don’t want to grant him the favor, or
maybe you don’t trust his judgment.
him and ask why? …he will sense that you simply don’t want to grant him the favor, or
maybe you don’t trust his judgment.
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sounds as if you need him to persuade you to do it. If he has to persuade you
to do things, do you actually know him? Simply grant him that favor without
asking too much questions.
5.HOT MAMA
Preserve
your self – most guys are visual, which means
if you allow yourself to look un kept, he’ll get bored. He doesn’t need to
commit to a girl who is going to get worse or eventually become
obese.
Maintain yourself physically and fitness wise, to prove you’re inclined
to be the best you can be for him.
your self – most guys are visual, which means
if you allow yourself to look un kept, he’ll get bored. He doesn’t need to
commit to a girl who is going to get worse or eventually become
obese.
Maintain yourself physically and fitness wise, to prove you’re inclined
to be the best you can be for him.
6.AGREE WITH HIM
Don’t
be scared that he’s going to run off with another female, truth be told,a lot
of them do run away eventually lol, but if your game is tight ,you don’t need to worry.
be scared that he’s going to run off with another female, truth be told,a lot
of them do run away eventually lol, but if your game is tight ,you don’t need to worry.
7.GIVE HIM SPACE
Frequently provide him space – each guy
desires some time alone. Its called ‘me time’,it doesn’t mean that he is
cheating on you with pretty Miss Scholastica, all of us want our own space sometimes.
He will see you as a very
smart woman if you could give him that space without him having to ask for it
or beg you. Do it ,he will recognize you and see you’re a marriage material.
desires some time alone. Its called ‘me time’,it doesn’t mean that he is
cheating on you with pretty Miss Scholastica, all of us want our own space sometimes.
He will see you as a very
smart woman if you could give him that space without him having to ask for it
or beg you. Do it ,he will recognize you and see you’re a marriage material.
8.BE THERE FOR HIM
Always be there for him, although he might not commend you for it, but obviously he knows deep down that you are supportive of him.
9.BE FINANCIALLY STABLE
Remember that was
the first thing I indirectly listed,being financially stable will make him
recognize that you aren’t going to take
every penny he has.
Some guys fear
marriage, due to the fact they’re frightened of losing all of their money, or
maybe simply because of their wife’s spending.
Remember that was
the first thing I indirectly listed,being financially stable will make him
recognize that you aren’t going to take
every penny he has.
Some guys fear
marriage, due to the fact they’re frightened of losing all of their money, or
maybe simply because of their wife’s spending.
10.PRAISE HIM
Men are cocky and proud naturally, so they
love it when their partner showers them with praise, it makes them feel
appreciated and special, also it encourages them to strive for more
achievements.
love it when their partner showers them with praise, it makes them feel
appreciated and special, also it encourages them to strive for more
achievements.
11.ANALYZE HIS INSECURITIES
When I said analyze I don’t mean that you
should turn into a nagging girlfriend or complain about any wrong thing he does
or turn into an amateur undercover FBI secret agent.
Always remember he is human–,however sometimes
point out some of his flaws and let him know what he is doing wrong, make sure you don’t use his insecurities
against him.
should turn into a nagging girlfriend or complain about any wrong thing he does
or turn into an amateur undercover FBI secret agent.
Always remember he is human–,however sometimes
point out some of his flaws and let him know what he is doing wrong, make sure you don’t use his insecurities
against him.
12. DON’T BE A DRAMA QUEEN
Don’t act out towards your guy – If he says
something that hurts your feelings or emotions, or if he does something you
disagree with…most ladies’s first reactions is be to be dramatic and emotional.
Then they will cry all over the place and nag the guy. Don’t do this…as it tells him that
you are a nightmare and that your too soft, always remain calm,then
calmly and gently tell him how he hurt you, if you do this, he will see you as
the woman he will wanna spend the rest of his life with, do not lash out at
him.
something that hurts your feelings or emotions, or if he does something you
disagree with…most ladies’s first reactions is be to be dramatic and emotional.
Then they will cry all over the place and nag the guy. Don’t do this…as it tells him that
you are a nightmare and that your too soft, always remain calm,then
calmly and gently tell him how he hurt you, if you do this, he will see you as
the woman he will wanna spend the rest of his life with, do not lash out at
him.
13. FIGHT
Each
relationship has its moments where they are disagreements and fights. However what
makes the difference is the ability that you have not to always put the blame
on him, sometimes accept and put the blame on yourself.
relationship has its moments where they are disagreements and fights. However what
makes the difference is the ability that you have not to always put the blame
on him, sometimes accept and put the blame on yourself.
14. CRITICIZE
Men criticize and then lay back to see your
reaction, they wanna see if you can take a criticism and improve, if you’re
struggling with this or freak out every time he criticizes you, you inform him
that you are not ready and not able to improve in the future, that will make him
not to see you as a wife material.
reaction, they wanna see if you can take a criticism and improve, if you’re
struggling with this or freak out every time he criticizes you, you inform him
that you are not ready and not able to improve in the future, that will make him
not to see you as a wife material.
15.STAND FIRM
Be critical when it’s important – and stand
firm and support your belief, you gotta do this intelligently tho, don’t go and
support a lost cause, or challenge and talk back at him when he is with is male
friends.
There is nothing much discouraging, or disturbing to man than a female
who talks back at him carelessly and does not take a serious stand on issues,so
you gotta suck it up and stand firm.
firm and support your belief, you gotta do this intelligently tho, don’t go and
support a lost cause, or challenge and talk back at him when he is with is male
friends.
There is nothing much discouraging, or disturbing to man than a female
who talks back at him carelessly and does not take a serious stand on issues,so
you gotta suck it up and stand firm.
16.PROMISES
Whenever you promise to do something for him, make
sure that you fulfill that promise, it sends a message to him,it assures him
that you keep to your words and it affirms that you have integrity,men love
that.
sure that you fulfill that promise, it sends a message to him,it assures him
that you keep to your words and it affirms that you have integrity,men love
that.
17.EXCUSES
You don’t wanna use excuses to shy away from
some of your responsibilities or always giving a flimsy excuse in other to
avoid house chores etc, you want him to marry you right?
Then quit giving too
much excuses.
some of your responsibilities or always giving a flimsy excuse in other to
avoid house chores etc, you want him to marry you right?
Then quit giving too
much excuses.
18.COZY
Be cozy
around him – Whenever he wants to touch you, you end up pulling away from him, sometimes you ask him
if you’re his teddy bear, you might end up making him feel insecure.
This might
send a signal to him that you are not comfortable around him, no man wants to
marry someone like that.
around him – Whenever he wants to touch you, you end up pulling away from him, sometimes you ask him
if you’re his teddy bear, you might end up making him feel insecure.
This might
send a signal to him that you are not comfortable around him, no man wants to
marry someone like that.
19. LOVE WITH ACTION
You tell him that you love him right? Well
baby talk is cheap,action speaks louder than words, He desires to see you
showing it with your actions.
baby talk is cheap,action speaks louder than words, He desires to see you
showing it with your actions.
20. SHOW APPRECIATION
Show appreciation for even the smallest
things, don’t wait for when he buys you a Rolls Royce Phantom or a pink Bentley
before you can show appreciation.
things, don’t wait for when he buys you a Rolls Royce Phantom or a pink Bentley
before you can show appreciation.
21.INSPIRATION
Inspire him to succeed daily.
22.STAY CALM
Whenever he is bothered about an issue, always
stay calm, don’t complicate and worsen his stress by blaming him.
That will
make him to become withdrawn from you, he wouldn’t wanna open up again to you, so
whenever he is tensed, if you don’t have soothing words to stay just stay calm
and mute,until he is ready to talk about it.
stay calm, don’t complicate and worsen his stress by blaming him.
That will
make him to become withdrawn from you, he wouldn’t wanna open up again to you, so
whenever he is tensed, if you don’t have soothing words to stay just stay calm
and mute,until he is ready to talk about it.
23.ROCK EM’
Use the
things he gives you ,no matter how cheap you think they are, still rock em’, even
if you have much more expensive items and jewelry, still try to rock em’, so
that whenever he sights an item he bought on you,it makes him excited.
things he gives you ,no matter how cheap you think they are, still rock em’, even
if you have much more expensive items and jewelry, still try to rock em’, so
that whenever he sights an item he bought on you,it makes him excited.
24.JUST DO IT
‘ FOR’ him
,before you ask ‘OF’ him, you feel me??
25.DISAGREE TO AGREE
Disagree to agree without sadness – There may
be differences, however the catch here is how you handle the situation.
Couples
quarrel a lot, its almost inevitable, what matters is how you handle the
circumstances, don’t disagree and stick to your guns totally, sometimes you
gotta see his own point of view.
That might eventually make you wanna agree
with him, don’t turn the disagreement into a fight and become disillusioned all because you don’t wanna agree.
This will
show him that you are emotionally immature, but if you eventually agree after
listening to his own side of the story without feeling disillusioned,even if
it you still think that it’s not right for you, that shows him how level headed
and matured you are.
be differences, however the catch here is how you handle the situation.
Couples
quarrel a lot, its almost inevitable, what matters is how you handle the
circumstances, don’t disagree and stick to your guns totally, sometimes you
gotta see his own point of view.
That might eventually make you wanna agree
with him, don’t turn the disagreement into a fight and become disillusioned all because you don’t wanna agree.
This will
show him that you are emotionally immature, but if you eventually agree after
listening to his own side of the story without feeling disillusioned,even if
it you still think that it’s not right for you, that shows him how level headed
and matured you are.
27.JUST ASK
If
you’re afraid to ask him a question,how then do you communicate with him?
Relationships and eventually marriage is based on one thing and that is
communication, whenever you don’t understand something don’t hesitate to ask, don’t
ever assume, just ask.
you’re afraid to ask him a question,how then do you communicate with him?
Relationships and eventually marriage is based on one thing and that is
communication, whenever you don’t understand something don’t hesitate to ask, don’t
ever assume, just ask.
28.RESPECT
Respect him – If he has boundaries, don’t pass
them. If he values his privacy in certain regions, don’t trespass.
If there is
something you dislike about him, don’t go complaining to your own family and
girlfriends about it behind his back.
There are numerous examples, however the
fundamental point is that if you respect him, he will feel valued, appreciated,
and upheld.
them. If he values his privacy in certain regions, don’t trespass.
If there is
something you dislike about him, don’t go complaining to your own family and
girlfriends about it behind his back.
There are numerous examples, however the
fundamental point is that if you respect him, he will feel valued, appreciated,
and upheld.
29.HOBBIES
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Marriage
is a long-term thing,most likely a lifetime thing for those who are
serious to make theirs work,so as his girlfriend or wife to be you gotta make
conscious effort to make to preserve his hobby.
He would be happy if you like
his hobby and indulge in it with him, it goes a long way to tell him that you
won’t bore him to death when he eventually asks you to marry him.
Men generally
are into women that like sports, video games etc so if you are into sports or
whatever hobby that your man is into, then you have a advantage.
Just show more
interest in it and indulge,he won’t be leaving you soon. But if you don’t
share the same hobbies with your partner then you gotta research new things,new abilities together, and try to create a lifestyle out of doors, this will
hold the relationship and spark his interest.
30.MISTAKES
Be smart,never make the same mistakes over and over, that is, don’t keep on repeating and making the same mistakes
,that might make him think that you are clumsy or genetically retarded ,no man
wants to marry and spend the rest of his life with an intellectual dullard,that is the awful truth.
,that might make him think that you are clumsy or genetically retarded ,no man
wants to marry and spend the rest of his life with an intellectual dullard,that is the awful truth.
‘Be smart,never make the same mistakes over and over,that might make him think that you are clumsy or genetically retarded,no man wants to marry and spend the rest of his great life with an intellectual dullard,that is the awful truth!’
31. FEELINGS
Ask yourself if this man is worth the stress,and ask yourself if this feeling is the right feeling,do not put your gorgeous self through stress for nothing.
32. IMPROVE
Make it
obvious to him that you are looking for a way to improve generally, you can
take up new classes, pursue another degree or something.
Just try and have a
side gig that will improve any part of your life, guys dig that a lot. It shows
that you’re improving and are moving ahead internally and externally.
obvious to him that you are looking for a way to improve generally, you can
take up new classes, pursue another degree or something.
Just try and have a
side gig that will improve any part of your life, guys dig that a lot. It shows
that you’re improving and are moving ahead internally and externally.
33. SHOVE EM’ OFF
Show him that you could allow things slide,
that your cool like that!
34. DEVOTED
Stay
with him mentally, physically and emotionally, always stay connected and in
detail no matter what.
with him mentally, physically and emotionally, always stay connected and in
detail no matter what.
35. CONCENTRATE
Focus! concentrate on him as much as possible
He wants to have the ability to speak to you
about something that’ is going on in his thoughts.
about something that’ is going on in his thoughts.
36. SERENITY
Be able to be alone and quiet with him.
37. PROJECT HIM
He needs a person who can project him in all
types of ways, including toughening him , challenging him to hold your interest
and many others… This will make him to stay glued to you, instead of getting
him interested in other girls.
types of ways, including toughening him , challenging him to hold your interest
and many others… This will make him to stay glued to you, instead of getting
him interested in other girls.
38. EYE CATCHING
Be eye-catching,look good all the time.
39. BE SINCERE
Just understand that honesty is universal, and
if it hurts it ain’t real…lies cause pain,so try to be sincere.
if it hurts it ain’t real…lies cause pain,so try to be sincere.
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40. ACCEPTANCE
Accept him and his flaws, try to work and
change em’,without making him realize, when he suddenly realizes that he has
left those bad habits, he would certainly affirm that you are a keeper.
change em’,without making him realize, when he suddenly realizes that he has
left those bad habits, he would certainly affirm that you are a keeper.
41. SURPRISES
Everyone loves surprises, tho some people claim
they don’t,but deep down they do, when I say surprises I meant
pleasant surprises not the other way round lol.
they don’t,but deep down they do, when I say surprises I meant
pleasant surprises not the other way round lol.
42. BE SPONTANEOUS
If your spontaneous, that will keep him
fascinated and gives him a reason to stay around for the longer term, because
it suggests that you still have plenty fun left to offer that he doesn’t even
know yet.
fascinated and gives him a reason to stay around for the longer term, because
it suggests that you still have plenty fun left to offer that he doesn’t even
know yet.
43.MAKE HIM LAUGH
Make him giggle, because “laughter is the best
medication” and it’s certainly an attractive trait for a “spouse”.
medication” and it’s certainly an attractive trait for a “spouse”.
44. BE ROMANTIC
Ladies this one doesn’t need an explanation,
does it??
does it??
45. LOWKEY
Keep most things to yourself, have a
secret,don’t go running to your girlfriends to run your mouth, studies have
shown that relationships lasts longer when some things are kept secret.
If you
can’t keep a secret as his girlfriend, would you keep a secret as his wife when
you guys eventually marry?
secret,don’t go running to your girlfriends to run your mouth, studies have
shown that relationships lasts longer when some things are kept secret.
If you
can’t keep a secret as his girlfriend, would you keep a secret as his wife when
you guys eventually marry?
46. ASSURANCE
Is very important – Relationships are about
two people, no longer one, make him recognize that he fulfills you.
Guys worry if they will be able to guide you, make
you happy, etc… that is why most of them
keep away from marriage and keep away from the dedication topic.
In case you
need him to marry you,let him understand that everything he’s doing right now is precisely what’s vital to sustain you in marriage and eventually when he
marries you,
two people, no longer one, make him recognize that he fulfills you.
Guys worry if they will be able to guide you, make
you happy, etc… that is why most of them
keep away from marriage and keep away from the dedication topic.
In case you
need him to marry you,let him understand that everything he’s doing right now is precisely what’s vital to sustain you in marriage and eventually when he
marries you,
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so that he will know that he is on the right track and that he’s
certainly pleasing and desirable to you.
47.SOCIAL MEDIA
Instead on working on your relationship and
improving on your weakness your busy uploading pictures of “bae” on Instagram,Facebook etc,
that’s a pretty basic move, He will see you as the social media girlfriend and maybe probably your using him to get attention,
improving on your weakness your busy uploading pictures of “bae” on Instagram,Facebook etc,
that’s a pretty basic move, He will see you as the social media girlfriend and maybe probably your using him to get attention,
try as much
as possible to decrease the whole social media paparazzi thingy and focus.
48.BE YOURSELF
Don’t eventually turn yourself into an alien
just because you want him to marry you, yes you gotta adjust in other to make
yourself compatible with your partner but don’t evolve and change into
something fake that your not,
always stay original!!
just because you want him to marry you, yes you gotta adjust in other to make
yourself compatible with your partner but don’t evolve and change into
something fake that your not,
always stay original!!
49.HIS FAMILY
Do you cringe or make a funny face whenever he
mention about his mother or his family, he would think that you don’t really
love him.
Most men love their mother and their family and if he senses
hostility towards them from you, then baby get ready to be an ‘ex’, you gotta
try and show affection to members of his family, at least try, even if you are
faking it, lol marriage is the motive.
mention about his mother or his family, he would think that you don’t really
love him.
Most men love their mother and their family and if he senses
hostility towards them from you, then baby get ready to be an ‘ex’, you gotta
try and show affection to members of his family, at least try, even if you are
faking it, lol marriage is the motive.
50.LOVE
If you genuinely love him,don’t hesitate to let him know daily,then back it up with actions,everything will eventually fall into place.
